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America's War on Sex: The Attack on Law, Lust and Liberty Marty Klein In Mary Klein's incisive analysis of the current struggle around publicly legislated approaches to sexuality he frames the battle between "erotophiles" who value or tolerate sexuality and "erotophobes" who are made anxious by it. Klein pulls no punches. He likens the religious call for American laws to regulate bedroom activity, entertainment, information access, or medical treatment as little different from the law imposed elsewhere by the Taliban. This book is an impassioned plea for more pluralism, less govenmental intrusiveness in the private lives of citizens - and more fun. 2006, Praeger Publishers |
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The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers Margo Anand This landmark book on human sexuality makes the sacred lovemaking techniques of the east fully comprehensible to western readers. Elegantly illustrated and filled with detailed exercises, it helps the reader acquire new attitudes and broaden his or her range of experience. The book is especially strong on methods for couples to revitalize and strengthen their relationship. 1991, Jeremy P. Tarcher |
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Better Than Ever: Love and Sex at Midlife Bernie Zilbergeld Famed sex therapist, Bernie Zilbergeld, gives the good news that one does not have to be twenty in order to enjoy a deeply satisfying life of love. In this book, he explains the wonderous world of love and sex among men and women aged 45 - 87. He provides practical solutions to common obstacles that get in the way of love and sex. 2005, Crown House Publishing |
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Beyond Orgasm: Dare to be Honest about the Sex You Really Want Marty Klein “This is a wonderful, very human book about how, why and at what price we hide the truth, especially our sexual truths, from ourselves and each other. Using lots of examples, humor and compassion the author discusses the challenges of self acceptance, sexual honesty and genuine intimacy.” (Amazon reviewer) Highly recommended. 2002, Ten Speed Press |
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Beyond the Big Talk: Every Parent’s Guide To Raising Sexually Healthy Teens From Middle School To High School and Beyond Debra Haffner and Alyssa Tartaglione The authors urge parents to keep the lines of communication constantly open with their children and to utilize “teachable moments” rather than having the one traditional “big talk” about sex. The book includes sections on early, middle, and later adolescent development. The discussion of birth control points out that parents can discourage kids from having sex while at the same time advocating safe sex. The book also addresses internet use, sexual harassment, and body image concerns. 2002, New Market Press This book was a Pick of the Month! Read David's full Book Review. |
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The Big Bang: A Guide to the New Sexual Universe The writers at Nerve.com Nerve.com's popular sex columnists Taylor and Sharkey ("Em & Lo") offer here a hip, frank, contemporary, and clever guide to the bedroom. Just about every topic that a nervous beginner or an intermediate practitioner might wonder about is covered: there are chapters on masturbation, foreplay, anal sex, oral sex, female ejaculation and even fisting and BDSM. There's also a very thorough chapter on sexually transmitted diseases, as well as ones on safer sex and sexual fitness. 2003, Plume |
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Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex Mary Roach Mary Roach, "the funniest science writer in the country," tackles the study of sexual physiology in Bonk. She shows us how and why sexual arousal and orgasm, two of the most complex, delightful, and amazing scientific phenomena on earth, can be so hard to achieve and what science is doing to slowly make the bedroom a more satisfying place. 2008, Norton |
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Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships Ruth Bell For grades eight and up. This comprehensive book is clearly written and includes discussion of sexual technique, STD’s and the danger of promiscuous sex, gay sex and sexual identity and teenage pregnancy and its alternatives. The latest information on the physical and emotional aspects of puberty, sexuality, eating disorders and healthcare for teenagers. 1998, Three Rivers Press |
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The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt The authors define the term slut as "a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you." In this funny, comforting yet controversial how-to volume, family therapist Dossie Easton and sex educator/writer Catherine A. Liszt provide a road map for exploring the sometimes difficult, often rewarding territory of non-traditional relationships. 1997, Greenery Press |
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From Diapers to Dating: A Parents’ Guide To Raising Sexually Healthy Children – From Infancy to Middle School Debra Haffner and Alyssa Tartaglione Whether they are discussing how to help kids with the onslaught of sexual messages they see in the media or providing sensible guidance on teaching the facts of life, the authors values-oriented approach to raising sexually healthy children is informative and comforting. The book is organized from birth to age 12 and offers a wealth of practical techniques to help parents identify and communicate their own values about sexuality to their children. 2004, New Market Press |
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Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid They'd Ask): The Secrets to Surviving Your Child's Sexual Development from Birth to the Teens Justin Richardson and Mark Schuste Acknowledging that kids are inherently sexual (male fetuses, for example, have erections in utero), professors Richardson and Schuster show how parents can influence their children's sexual development in healthy ways through honest communication. They walk readers through the development of an average girl and boy, from infant seeds of sexuality to teenager's first experience of intercourse, and fearlessly cover topics from toddler sex play to dating, love, homosexuality, masturbation, birth control, STDs and pregnancy. Thoroughly researched, extremely well written and chock-full of personal stories from parents, this "survival guide" should be required reading for any parent who believes in being open about these touchy issues. 2004, Three Rivers Press |
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The Guide to Getting it On: The Universe’s Coolest and Most Informative Book About Sex Paul Joannides and Daerick Gross This comprehensive “how to” book on sex is entertaining, honest and enlightening. It is written in a casual style and filled with enjoyable quotes from real couples and sex therapists. Beautiful line drawings illustrate the chapters which also include a great deal of information on sexuality as a cultural phenomenon. Particularly useful for heterosexual couples. 1992, Fireside |
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Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex Judith Levine “In America today, it is nearly impossible to publish a book that says children and teenagers can have sexual pleasure and be safe too,” writes journalist Levine, who argues that sex is not necessarily bad for minors and that puritanical attitudes often backfire. She notes the disturbing trend toward pathologizing young children’s eroticized play and criticizes the abstinence-only approach to sex education. Harmful to Minors offers fresh alternatives to fear and silence, describing sex-positive approaches that are ethically based and focus on common sense. 2002, University of Minnesota Press |
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The Heart and Soul of Sex: Making the ISIS Connection Gina Ogden Based on a landmark sex survey, researcher and sex therapist Ogden found "the language of spiritual experience comes closest to expressing the fullness of our sexual response, for it is the language of connection and ecstasy." The book guides the reader on a path to her sexual "center" where healing, ecstasy and transformation occur. 2006, Trumpeter This book was a Pick of the Month! Read David's full Book Review. |
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Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse
Marty Klein and Riki Robbins Two of America’s leading sex and gender experts show readers how to make sex more enjoyable by breaking away from the repetitive mechanics of intercourse. The book describes a path toward a more varied, playful and intimate sexuality, debunking myths such as “impotence,” “frigidity,” and “foreplay;” indeed the book shatters the myth that intercourse equals sex itself. 1999, Putnam |
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Make Love Not War: The Sexual Revolution – An Unfettered History David Allyn In this account of the sexual revolution of the 1960’s and 70’s in the U.S., Princeton historian Allyn mixes a smooth narrative of events (e.g., the legalization of birth control, abortion, and interracial marriage), the famous (Hugh Hefner, Masters and Johnson), and not so famous (Jeff Poland of the Sexual Freedom League), with occasional analytic excursions into dramatic changes in society and individual lives. 2001, Routledge |
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The Naked Truth About Sex: A Guide to Intelligent Sexual Choices for Teenagers and Twentysomethings Roger W. Libby Renowned sexologist Dr. Roger Libby gives teens and twentysomethings the hard facts about physical intimacy in this refreshingly sex-positive book. Without moralizing or judging, he encourages them to develop a healthy, vibrant sexuality to be celebrated with self-respect and consideration of others. 2006, Freedom Press | ||
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The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: The Most Complete Sex Manual Ever Written Cathy Winks and Anne Semans This candid, upbeat, friendly guide to enhancing your sex life insists that “there’s more sexual pleasure available than most people experience” and “achieving this pleasure should not be difficult, dangerous or expensive.” Explicit line drawings show sex between male-female, male-male, and female-female partners as well as solitary acts with vibrators. Its wide-ranging and entertaining mix of information and good humor make this book useful to people of all ages and persuasions. 2002, Cleis Press |
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The New Joy of Sex Alex Comfort A new edition of the best-selling classic guide to sex features completely redone illustrations, erotic duotone photographs, and a text that has been restructured to address today’s health concerns. Witty, wise, uninhibited, frank and exuberant discussion of sex. 1992, Pocket Books |
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The New Sex and Love After 60 Robert Butler, Myrna Lewis "The best all-around sex manual for older adults." Thorough coverage of the effects of normal aging, medical problems, and drugs on sexuality and how to overcome roadblocks; physical and emotional sexual fitness; singlehood and relationships; sexual enhancement tips; dating, remarriage, and one's children; and finding help. 2002, Ballantine Books |
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Nymphomania: A History Carol Groneman Historian Groneman argues that nymphomania is a metaphor reflecting society's ambivalence toward and discomfort with female desire. She traces the history from the Victorian era when it was considered an organic disease. Psychoanalytic therory posited an "immature" inability to enjoy vaginal organisms. By mid-twentieth century, "sexperts" sought to reconcile evidence of multiple organisms and easy arousal with notions of morality. 2001, W. W. Norton & Company |
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Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships Tristan Taormino Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships—from partnered nonmonogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting, and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy. 2008, Cleis Press |
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Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex Betty Dodson Dr. Dodson debunks the myths that keep us from having satisfying - and mutually satisfying - sex lives. She shows us how to be happier and healthier through the benefits of pleasure, and she shows us how to get to know ourselves and our partners better, whether it's the inner and outer workings of the anatomy or the best sex toys to bring to bed. Open Orgasms for Two and see how rewarding it is to cast aside conventional beliefs about sexuality and begin to enjoy the best sex of your life. 2002, Harmony |
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Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Charles Moser This book addresses a wide range of issues that confront those who practice S/M as part of their overall sexuality. It debunks many widely believed myths regarding S/M utilizing empirical research. Kleinplatz and Moser contribute to a view of S/M that moves away from pathology, toward a pro-active and responsive view of sexuality. 2006, Harrington Park Press |
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Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson Pleasing color sketches and simple diagrams adorn the pages of Satisfaction by famed Sex and the City actor Kim Cattrall. Simple concepts--open communication, trust, love, and a consistent interest in pleasing one another--are the ingredients for an enriching and fulfilling sex life that can bring two people ever closer, according to the text. The facts speak for themselves: when pressed, women will confess in droves that they are sexually frustrated. It's tricky to communicate one's carnal desires to one's lover, yet both parties must be open to this type of ongoing discussion for the formula to work. 2003, Warner Books |
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Sex & Love for Grownups: A No-Nonsense Guide to a Life of Passion Sallie Foley The most poignant and provocative questions sent to AARP Magazine's "Modern Love" column have been collected - and answered - in this new book that reveals everything you always wanted to know about sex, love, and relationships at age 40 and beyond. 2005, Sterling |
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Sex in America Gina Kolata, et. al. This is the popular report of the most authoritative study ever of sexual behavior in the United States. Its most startling conclusion is that most Americans don’t “do it” as much as the media and previous surveys such as Kinsey’s have made us think. The book provides in-depth information on the wide range of sexual practices in this country. 1995, Warner Books |
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Sex Is Not a Natural Act and Other Essays Leonore Tiefer A newly revised collection of provocative essays on sex and its many meanings in our culture by one of the most prolific, original, and highly regarded sexologists in the field today. Tiefer focuses on the social construction of sexuality: “a kiss is not a kiss; your orgasm is not the same as George Washington’s, premarital sex in Peru is not premarital sex in Peoria, abortion in Rome at the time of Caesar is not abortion at the time of John Paul II, and rape is neither an act of sex nor an act of violence – all of these actions remain to be defined by individual experience within one’s period and culture.” A fascinating and thought-provoking book. 2004, Westview Press |
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Sex Over 50 Joel Block with Susan Bakos A frank, confident guide to the uninhibited pleasures of sex – for those pushing fifty and for those on the far side of it – that shows how to overcome the common problems mature couples experience and bring fulfillment and intimacy back to any sex life. 1999, Prentice Hall | ||
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Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It Aline Zoldbrod The author describes milestones of sexual development during childhood and adolescence and explains how this influences one’s adult sexuality. She demonstrates how family dynamics in childhood underlie adult sexual problems from sexual aversion to sexual addiction. Case studies, “body maps,” and exercises allow readers to work through sexual issues. 1998, New Harbinger |
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Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred
Patrick Carnes and Joseph Moriarity Sexual anorexia is an extreme fear of sexual intimacy and the obsessive avoidance of sex. The authors examine its causes -- often arising from childhood trauma and other forms of abuse and neglect -- and then describe concrete tasks and plans for exploring intimacy and restoring healthy sexuality. 1997, Hazelden |
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Sexual Awareness: Couple Sexuality for the Twenty-First Century Barry McCarthy, Emily McCarthy This book is written for people who want to enhance intimacy and sexual satisfaction. It is a practical, confidence-building book that shows you how to increase your sexual pleasure, focusing on feelings and fulfillment for both partners. . 2002, Carroll & Graf Publishers; Revised and updated edition |
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Sexual Health and Erotic Freedom Barnaby B. Barratt Eminent sexologist Barnaby Barrett discusses the tragedy of America's bipolar sexual compulsions, that of sex-phobia and sex-obsession, which create a volatile and unhealthy social environment. Rather than gloomily cataloguing the sexual ills of American society, Barratt presents a bold vision for sexual health and erotic freedom that incorporates the broad scope of healthy sexual expression across cultures, psychological research, and medical knowledge. 2005, Xlibris |
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Sexuality in Mid-Life Stephen Levine This frank text provides a discussion of topics of particular importance in midlife, such as intimacy, sexual desire, psychological development, the six eras of sexual life, extramarital affairs, menopause, and sexual impairments due to new antidepressants. He addresses the many phases of love: falling in love, being in love, and spiritual love. 1998, Kluwer |
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The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love Thomas Moore “We have a habit of talking about sex as merely physical, and yet nothing has more soul,” Moore begins. He focuses on historical, philosophical, religious and psychological aspects of sexuality that are often overlooked. The author believes that if we paid more attention to beauty, sensuality and pleasure, we might actually enhance our spirituality. 1999, Perennial |
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Still Doing It: Women and Men Over Sixty Write About Their Sexuality Joani Blank, editor The writers (60-plus to 80-plus) of Still Doing It all enjoy a rich sexual life. Some write about sex with a longtime partner and how they use fantasy, costume, videos, and sex toys to keep their relationships new. Some have multiple partners (including a few who "swing"), or describe their search for partners. Some choose self-pleasuring. Be forewarned that these erotic stories are extremely graphic, with take-no-prisoners descriptions of body parts, arousal techniques, connections, positions, and releases. The writers' sexual orientations are an assortment of straight, gay, and bisexual. 2000, Down There Press |
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The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse Staci Haines Sex-positive and daring, this book will support any woman's pursuit of pleasure and confidence. Haines discusses common negative reactions among survivors such as withdrawal and dissociation and suggests ways to move on. Her chapters on "sexual response and anatomy" and "masturbation and self-healing" may come as a welcome revelation to women who have repressed their sexual feelings. 1999, Cleis Press |
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Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving Charles and Caroline Muir This artfully illustrated book distills the art of Tantric practice into simple language with clear explanations, helpful exercises and gentle encouragement. Charles and Caroline Muir offer modern couples ancient Tantric secrets for deepening relationships, intimacy, and passion. 1990, Mercury House |
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Ten Keys to Successful Sexual Partnering Barnaby B. Barratt "Healthy sexuality is always safe, sane, and consensual." These simple words sum up the essence of Barratt's wise and generous counsel for successful sexual partnering. This helpful guide offers direct, non-judgmental recommendations for people of all orientations and practices. 2005, Xlibris |
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Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil Jenny Wade Developmental psychologist Wade claims that lovemaking can be a path to soulful realization. In this book based on first-hand accounts of nearly 100 respondents, she describes ordinary people's spontaneous spiritual awakenings through transcendent sex. Wade describes many forms that mystical may take, provides warnings on the down side of altered state sex and offers suggestions for facilitating transcendent sex. A fascinating and unusual book. 2004, Pocket |
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The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure Violet Blue This book is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. Sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman as well as accurate up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In a friendly, witty tone, Blue discusses games for lovers, positions, safe sex, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations and tips for effectively communicating with a partner. 2002, Cleis Press |
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The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure Violet Blue This book addresses many misconceptions women have about the male sexual cycle and male orgasm, touching on the unique individuality of every man. No two men are exactly alike in need, in preferences, in touch. 2002, Cleis Press |
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The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg and Fran Odette Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities — from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis, and more. The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability provides readers with encouragement, support, and all the information they need to create a sex life that works for them. The authors cover all aspects of sex and disability, including building a positive sexual self-image; positions to minimize stress and maximize pleasure; dealing with fatigue or pain during sex; finding partners and talking with partners about sex and disability; adapting sex toys; and more. 2007, Cleis Press |
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Virgin: The Untouched History Hanne Blank "By any material reckoning, virginity does not exist," writes Blank in this informative, funny and provocative analysis of one of the most elusive—and prized—qualities of human sexuality. Blank, an independent scholar, has pieced together a history of how humans have constructed the idea of virginity (almost always female and heterosexual) and engineered its uses to suit cultural and political forces. Thoroughly researched, carefully argued and written with a sly sense of humor, this is a bright addition to the popular literature of women's and cultural studies. 2007, Bloomsbury USA |
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What Really Happens in Bed Steven Carter The author interviewed 250 people aged 19 to 74 to learn about sexual relationships. According to Carter, the truth about people’s intimate behavior is that “most of us are ‘sexual chameleons’ shuttling between serial monogamy, extramarital affairs, multiple partners, and celibacy.” 1990, Dell |
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Why is Sex Fun?: the Evolution of Human Sexuality Jared M. Diamond Unique aspects of human sexuality that are not shared with other mamals: female menopause, male's role in society, having sex in private and - most unusual of all - having sex for fun instead of for procreation. Biologist and science author Diamond uses comparative evolution to pose credible and thought-provoking explanations. 1998, Basic Books |
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Why we Love: the Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love Helen Fisher Anthropologist Fisher argues that much of our romantic behavior is hard-wired. Citing behavioral research into the effects of two crucial chemicals, norepinephrine and dopamine, she includes fascinating information on romance and love among non-human animals. Fisher also reports on the behaviors that lead to successful life-long partnerships and offers numerous tips on staying in love. 2005, Owl Books |
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